Moving and getting married are two of the most stressful life events a person can go through, and when you combine them they can be overwhelming. Trying to orchestrate a major move and make preparations for a wedding at the same time is a huge undertaking, but sometimes it’s necessary for couples to take it all on at once.
Fortunately, there are some things you can do to make the process a bit simpler and reduce your stress at the same time. It takes a bit of planning, and communication with your partner and with the people who are involved in your preparations, but with some forward thinking, you can ensure that both your big days go off without a hitch.
Here are some tips on getting started.
Get on the same page
It’s important to make sure--in the early stages--that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to the major elements, such as the budget and timeline. Once you’ve worked out the biggest details of the wedding--when and where it will be held, especially--you’ll have a general timeline to work with for the move. Talk to your family members to get a handle on what sort of help you’ll have available to you in the weeks leading up to the move; you may need assistance with packing, especially since you’ll be busy getting everything together for your nuptials.
Get some help
If you’re moving into a home that’s more than a few years old, it’s a good idea not to leave anything to chance. Have it inspected and make plans for renovations with a professional contractor. You don’t want to be caught off guard with unexpected expenses during this time; in the San Jose area, a kitchen remodel can cost upwards of $30,000.
Get it in writing
Moving can be complicated, whether you’re renting or selling your home, and it’s imperative that you get everything in writing before you start making plans. If you’re renting, you might need to ask your landlord if you can go month to month for a short period of time (if your lease is up before you’re ready to move into the new place). If you work out an agreement, get it in writing so you’re not left out in the cold should your landlord change his mind. Read advice from real brides here.
Delegate
It’s understandable to want to do everything yourself when it comes time to plan your wedding, but it’s important to remember not to take too much onto yourself. Burnout and stress are the last things you need right before one of the most important days of your life, so ask a trusted friend or family member to help out. You can still do the big things--picking out and ordering invitations, for instance--but it’s okay to let someone else take the reins when it comes to the little details, such as centerpieces or party favors.
Take some “couples” time
Combining a move with a wedding can be incredibly stressful, so it’s imperative to take some “you” time. Carve out sections of the week for you and your partner to relax together and spend some quality time without planning or talking about budgets.
So many changes coming at once can lead to anxiety or depression, so if you begin to feel overwhelmed, take a break and reach out to your partner or a close friend. Talking about your feelings can really help you feel more comfortable with the situation.